True Commitment

Many youth today are involved in high turnover relationships. They meet, say "yahoo, and within a week they are already girlfriend and boyfriend. Before the month expires, the relationship is over and the whole ordeal served no purpose.

We need to understand that the initial attraction is only a physical one. It only means that you have met someone who may potentially become a special friend of yours. It does not mean that you get yourself all worked up and confused thinking you have found true love.

Any relationship that is meaningful and lasting involves true commitment. Commitment takes time to build, but you need to have commitment in place before physical intimacy. The bible says that it is good for a man not to touch a woman (1 Corinthians 7:1). That means just because you are attracted to someone, that’s no reason to start hugging, petting and kissing. Once you start all that physical stuff, your mind will become clouded to what true commitment is all about.

True commitment means you take time to learn to value and respect one another. True commitment means you agree to set limits and save sex for marriage. True commitment you "cool down and think clearly."

Many youth are not really ready for commitment, but they enjoy physical contact. But the sure way to know whether or not you have commitment is to "back off" physically. If your boyfriend or girlfriend drops you because you decide to stop the physical stuff, consider yourself blessed.