Let Love Make The Choice

Crush – An intense and usually passing attachment or infatuation (Webster Third New International Dictionary).

Have you ever had a crush on someone? I have. In fact, in my younger days I had a crush just about every attractive girl I met. It would seem like something so innocent could hardly be harmful, but in our times we have to be a lot more discerning.

Youth today carry a lot more emotional baggage than we did thirty years ago. Guys today are in love with themselves, and are too selfish and immature to understand true commitment. Girls today are insecure and naive; they lack the inner respect for themselves that would make them value chastity and modesty. For this reason guys are pimping and gangbanging while girls are trying to look like the latest video dancer.

A crush is just one of many emotions that we feel, but we cannot afford to make decisions based on it. The reason for that is simple. A crush will soon pass on, but some decisions will impact the rest of our lives. Love is solid and secure. We must make decisions based on love, and in order to do that, we need to slow down and understand what love is.

A crush is really intense; it is mostly based on the "lust of the eyes". It doesn’t really know anything about that person. I have heard many stories about young girls that left home to meet a person they met in an online chat room. They made a decision based on a crush, but in the end their choice brought destruction. No matter how much you are drawn to a person, if it isn’t true love, it’s off limits.

You may meet a great person who shares many of your interests. That person may sweep you off your feet. But the real fact is that there are many physical limits in place for single couples. These limits protect us physically and emotionally. Unfortunately, many youth today push the physical boundaries way too far too fast. They have sophisticated cell phones and reliable transportation which makes yielding to temptation far too easy. Listen. No matter how excited our emotions make us feel, in the end those same emotions will betray us.

Love is more than an emotion. It is a spiritual reality that is a part of our inner being when we make Jesus the Lord of our life. We should always allow love to guide our choices. That’s why when we get overwhelmed by our crushes, just slow down and let love make the choice.

The Bible is filled with principles to guide us in making choices based on love. As we study the Word of God and allow that Word to direct us, we will be able to keep our crushes from putting the squeeze on us.

By: Edmund Brown